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Choices
Posted by Antonia Furlong in General on July 30th, 2009
A great ‘wakeup’ – by Patrick Powers
I hope you will be inspired to make your life a masterpiece.
If you believe in limitations you will have them but if you believe you can do anything you can. So why not choose the best. I’ve done that and that’s why I’ve chosen to get out of the rat-race.
I hope you make the best possible choices for you. What ever you do – go for it and give it ALL you’ve got
7 Reasons Not To Do It
Posted by Antonia Furlong in Tips and Pointers, Unlock Your Mind on June 24th, 2009
I have found everywhere I look there are all sorts of reasons not to get started on a project, a new direction, a new beginning.
I reckon there are some real beasts in amongst this list and it’s one sure fire way to stay exactly where you are and not change a thing…
1. It’s too hard
There are so many avenues to persue and not knowing what you really wan to persue makes it even easier not to do something!
Where do you actually begin? That’s where you really need to make a plan and make it bite sized and achievable. It’ll only be very easy to give up if it feels like you are climbing Everest and getting nowhere fast.
Always remember to look at how far you have gone. If you have set goals and achieved them, look back at those you have completed. It will inspire you to continue.
2. It’s too expensive
Each and every attempt you try to find the right information it will cost you thousands of dollars. You are probably thinking “Who has that kind of money to invest in something that may not even work?”. Trust me when I say you won’t get it right every time and every dollar spent is towards your education and will have an effect on any future decsiions you make. No one can take away what is in between your ears and what you learn. The best investment you ever make will be in your education. Life is a non stop learning experience!
If you are still not sure look for the testimonials from the real people and find out if they have actually done what it says on the tin! Simple really and it’s the proof it works.
3. I don’t know what to do
Often you will be put off as you don’t know what to do. A good indicator is to do something that you know you will enjoy – it will ensure you kee going. You also want to do something you know people will want. There is no point trying to sell something to people if they don’t need it.
4. I don’t know how to do it
It’s hard to find that step by step guide, the map and the compass to guide you through all the confusion. Many people give you half the answer. There are some clever people out there that instead of giving you the answers, you actually have to go out and do it yourself. What chance have you got to learn anything REAL is something is done for you and served on a platter?
Be prepared to roll your sleeves up and do some of the hard yarns. Get your hands dirty. There is merit in understanding the full process ofdoing something for yourself. It also makes it simpler to leverage in the future.
5. I’m not good enough
This is a really tough one. There will always be that little voice in you that tells you “What makes you the expert?”. Well to be perfectly honest, you are already making moves to learn something new. Already you are a mile ahead of the pack. Take a look around at those closest to you. What are they actively doing to change there circumstances?
Remember to source your information carefully. Your uncle Tom is not probably the best person to get financial and real estate advice.
6. Everyone will laugh at me
Interestingly this is something I was talking about just the other day to an acquaintence. If you were to walk into a room, who do you think the other people are thinking about? I can tell you now, they are NOT thinking about you. It’s only you who is worried about you. You may be given the opportunity by someone to be a fleeting thought in there head. Everyone else in that room is only thinking about themselves and how they are being perceived by others. When I remember that, my whole perspective and energy shifts. Try it. At least you have put yourself out there — it’ll be more than the average person.
And finally the BIGGEST reason not to do something…
7. Fear
In fact it’s the underlying reason for all of the above. It’s a tough one to admit to yourself, however there are many many ways to confront and over come it. Normally the best thing to do is TAKE ACTION. No matter how small, as long as you take action every day towards the place you want to be, you will be 7 steps further towards it by the end of the week. Add it all up and by the end of the month, 30 steps closer. You get my drift.
I really do hope that something in this list strikes you because I have been in exactly your shoes, asking myself all those questions and more. And yet I keep getting back up and ploughing on as I know there is a great life to live out there and it’s not doing the things I was doing 2 years ago in the office job.
I have spent a lot of my time and my money finding ways in which I could get out the rut I was in. I started down one avenue, almost lost everything and had to make an about turn, completely changing plans, directions and focus. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, however the person I have become in the meantime is determined and tenacious.
I want you to really understand what you are capable of when you set your mind to it.
“Embrace Your True Potential” — Nelson Mandela.
I wish you all the best in your endeavours whatever they may be. It an awesome journey, sometime rocky, sometimes smooth sailing. I cannot stress to you how worth it it all becomes.
To your continued success,
Antonia
7 Things To Do When Things Get Tough…
Posted by Antonia Furlong in Tips and Pointers on May 27th, 2009
It has been a while since my last blog – I can’t believe how time flies!
To say this has been an easy choice to make, an easy journey to take would be a lie. To be really honest, I have really struggled to find and mantain momentum to deliver.
So what has been going on?
Well I have been masterminding. It has been life changing to say the least. I have found and now work with a great group of like minded entrepreneurs. Being associated with them instantly means I have a bigger game to play and I will have to stretch so far out of my comfort zone. This will be the place I learn the most.
To succeed on any journey, be it different from the rest of the world, you will have your obstacles -
“Obstacles are the things that appear when you take your eye off the end goal”.
Here are 7 things you can do when things get a little tough out there.
1. Take Charge
Things will otherwise remain the same for you. In your comfort zone life just happens, you must go out and make it happen for you.
2. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Recognise the feelings of what may be holding you back and go and do them. Frightening as they may be, the more you do them the less fearful they become.
3. Stretch
Push yourself a little each day to take action. Something different that you haven’t done before.
4. Grow
You can only become a bigger person than before – you can’t help it if you are facing confront time and time again.
5. Learn
As your world expands from your growth, learn from everything you have done to make this happen. Without knowing it, opportunities will present themselves the more you and your vision expands. Grab them and learn from them. Remember those things that work and keep doing them.
6. Master Mind
The power of a group is second to none. You have to realise this path you have chosen is not an easy one. Best surround yourself with people who are experiencing similar things with you. Share what you are going through, someone will be able to understand and help you through.
Don’t kid yourself that doing things differently will be easy. If they were then everyone else would be doing it.
7. Do A Little A Lot.
Small actions all the time? This will supercharge you. You will see change happening quickly. Progress will keep you lifted, motivated and on track.
As always, let me know how you are getting on.
All the best,
Antonia
Push Your Game
Posted by Antonia Furlong in Tips and Pointers on April 26th, 2009
Have you ever been a member of a sporting team? Played netball, hockey, anything that requires your active participation?
At school I was on most of the sports team – I loved sport, always been very competitive however it didn’t take me long to realise the team effort required and the skills from the team had on the whole affected my skills and my game.
I used to live in Hong Kong and when I first arrived I played netball. One evening of my first season I turned up to the team trials. There was easily over a hundred of us girls there all trying out for a team either one similar to last season or just find one to be part of for the first time. There was a hive of activity and everyone seemed to know each other all except me of course!
Sound familiar? Being in a place where it feels like you know no-one and everyone else knows everyone?
With my confidence at an all time low, I wasn’t known, very new to all of the try outs and I hadn’t played for at least 5 years, and I playing a position I had never played before. All of these negative thoughts and feeling really affected my game funnily enough.
Not surprisingly I was put into the 3rd division (there were only 3 divisions in Hong Kong), and in the B team of the 3rd division (there were only 3 teams in the 3rd division).
I didn’t feel all that great about the result and would turn up to training that ensued quite deflated as I knew I could do better. I had once before, I was part of a great netball team way back when.
Not long after training had begun and we had played a few matches I notice my skills, enthusiasm and level declined rapidly – I had the wrong attitude to it all. I approached it all wrong, each and every game and each week I went to training. I would just turn up, train, play and leave without breaking into a sweat.
I got bored and instead of continuing along the same game and skill level and instead of quitting (which was the easy route), I knew wanted more, I wanted to be pushed, get really fired up and so I asked if I could try out for the first division one week at training.
It was a shot in the dark perhaps but why not?
In training I would be out sprinted, out skilled and generally massively out performed but it just got me wanting even more – I had to keep up if I wanted to stay at the top level.
From that day on my game, attitude and enthusiasm completely changed. I could no longer play as I had been playing in the 3rd division, the game had changed and it felt like the rules were different.
Unless I changed my approach to it all, I would remain in the third division, miserable and bored and I would have probably left.
Even when you think there is no way you can do something, it would never happen to you and it’s virtually impossible, you have to at least try, give it a shot. You may find your game changes too.
Stretch yourself, put yourself out there and I guarantee you will be amazed at what you can learn about yourself.
Suffice to say I never did return to the B team in the Third division. I became captain of my first division team instead!
Until next time,
Antonia
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