Posts Tagged Change
Live Deliberately
Posted by Antonia Furlong in Unlock Your Mind on August 20th, 2009
There seems to be something in the water -
I have heard from about 8 people, both close to me and those more distant, this passed couple of weeks all with “Family Emergencies”.
Whether they have been illnesses, somebody passing away or funerals, I can only hope those friends and acquaintences had the time to share a full life with their loved ones. These are all desperately sad encounters and they got me thinking.
More often than not we are consumed by what we believe to be important to us on a daily basis, that list of things to do etc. However the more I sit and liten in on conversations and the more I generally hear around and about are those realising that the more important things in life are being left behind.
I read recently that it all comes down to love. Yep it’s a big word and will turn many of you off straight away however, the things that really matter to you are based solely on love.
Why do we get so consumed by the daily buzz and gossip? What is it that compels us to get so caught up in it all?
I’m not about to answer these questions but is this really what our lives are coming to?
I watched this amazing documentary about the pilot who landed on the Hudson River earlier this year. What a great story. The interviews with the survivors really struck a chord.
Each of them not only were faced with the emergency landing and whether they were going to survive the impact, but also the potential of the plane sinking in the freezing river.
This is an extraordinary example and the ways these survivors live their lives now has changed remarkably.
When faced with adversity we decide then and there to do things differently; to make changes, we decide to live our lives differently and make those loved ones, the things that truly matter, our priority.
What amazes me is how we sit and wait for these events to happen in order for us to change the way we live our lives. Why watch the world pass us by? Jump in and get involved with it all.
A great businessman and mentor of mine advises us all to
“Live Deliberately”
Live as if every day counts and that we matter.
These sad and painful events I have been hearing about just tells me that life is so fragile and yet we take it too much for granted.
My husband Alan recently met a great guy called Scott. The two of them have so much in common and wish only the best for others in life. On Saturday Alan was told that his new friend passed away, early 40s with two young kids, from a stroke – his funeral is today.
Please, for both your sake and mine, don’t just assume those around you know they are important to you, tell them, make them feel special.
Re-assess where you are going and if this is really the path you want to be taking.
“You may spend all of your life climbing the corporate ladder only to realise when you get to the top you find it leaning against the wrong wall.”
Each day is a gift. Use them wisely.
7 Ways To Get Out From Jobs That Pay The Rent
Posted by Antonia Furlong in Action, Tips and Pointers on August 4th, 2009
Do you find you are always looking for work? For another job?
I don’t necessarily mean that you are always out of work looking for another job. What I mean is that you are in a job and yet disasstified with what you are doing for one reason or another, you begin to look elsewhere for a bigger challenge or just something that will take the current pain away and change the scenery?
I spent on average 18 months in each job I had – it certainly isn’t record breaking in terms of long service however moving from one place to another always seemed to be the easiest option when things got tough. I distinctly remember taking a job for the sake of it to pay the bills. In the meantime whilst I was doing that job I would look for something more permanent.
If this sounds like you then keep reading…
If there is anything that I learned from all the moving around, it is this.
I was never going to be happy at any job I did working for someone else.
It’s easy for me to say this now, however I was great at pointing the blame externally, at all and sundry that would wander into my line of fire. I wouldn’t necessarily say this was the best way to learn, but if I can just point it out to you now, before you do what I did and just leave, then please please just take this with you.
You are completely responsible for where you are, the place you find yourself in now and the way you react to any given situation.
Yep, you, no one else, is to blame.
1. No matter what may be said, written or inferred, you are 100% responsible for the reactions you have.
You can choose to react positively or negatively. You can choose to learn from the feedback or dismiss it entirely supposing they are wrong.
2. Wake up to yourself.
This is the exact kind of feedback you need to make a change. Stop pretending it is someone else’s fault. Take a good long look at what you are doing.
3. Change is scary.
Anything new or different is a change and it can be scary. You don’t know what to do or where to begin. Do some research to lessen the blow.
4. Nothing will change if it’s still bearable.
When it gets to a point where continuing what you are doing is more painful that any change you make then something will happen.
Your mind will be made up, your paradigm changed and there will be no looking back.
I am not for one moment suggesting you head out of the door having written the letter of resignation and put it on your boss’ desk. What I strongly suggest you do though is take a look at what you could be doing for yourself.
5. What is it you really want?
I knew I couldn’t work for anyone but myself and so I had to find a way to make an income doing exactly that. I have found through 2 years of research and experince that it is almost impossible to get rich working for someone else. I was going to have to go it alone.
Whilst this wasn’t a decision made lightly it was made with significant self edcuation and learning going on in the back ground. My husband and I chose to do this together (which makes it easier). We chose the path that we thought would get us to where we wanted to go – to our financial freedom.
Financial freedom means many different things to many different people. I am not suggesting anyone of the definitions are right or wrong, however what it meant to us was .
“To replace our exisiting income we were getting from paid employment, with an income from real estate assets and other business assets without trading our time for that money”.
In the film ‘The Devil Wears Prada’ our heroine takes the job she knows she will hate for the year BUT she knows it would open all sorts of opportunities and doors to magazines, editors, writers that will skyrocket her journalism career.
6. What is it that you want so much that you are willing to do anything to get it?
So if you are going to take yet another job that ‘Pays The Rent/ Bills/ Mortgage’ then seriously consider how long will it do just that for you?
7. Short term sacrifices almost always end up in long term gains.
What are your long term gains? What do you want to really be doing with your time?
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I wish you all the best and to your continued success.
Antonia
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