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7 Reasons Not To Do It

I have found everywhere I look there are all sorts of reasons not to get started on a project, a new direction, a new beginning.

I reckon there are some real beasts in amongst this list and it’s one sure fire way to stay exactly where you are and not change a thing…

1. It’s too hard

There are so many avenues to persue and not knowing what you really wan to persue makes it even easier not to do something!

Where do you actually begin? That’s where you really need to make a plan and make it bite sized and achievable. It’ll only be very easy to give up if it feels like you are climbing Everest and getting nowhere fast.

Always remember to look at how far you have gone. If you have set goals and achieved them, look back at those you have completed. It will inspire you to continue.

2. It’s too expensive

Each and every attempt you try to find the right information it will cost you thousands of dollars.  You are probably thinking “Who has that kind of money to invest in something that may not even work?”. Trust me when I say you won’t get it right every time and every dollar spent is towards your education and will have an effect on any future decsiions you make. No one can take away what is in between your ears and what you learn. The best investment you ever make will be in your education. Life is a non stop learning experience!

If you are still not sure look for the testimonials from the real people and find out if they have actually done what it says on the tin! Simple really and it’s the proof it works.

3. I don’t know what to do

Often you will be put off as you don’t know what to do. A good indicator is to do something that you know you will enjoy – it will ensure you kee going. You also want to do something you know people will want. There is no point trying to sell something to people if they don’t need it.

4. I don’t know how to do it

It’s hard to find that step by step guide, the map and the compass to guide you through all the confusion. Many people give you half the answer. There are some clever people out there that instead of giving you the answers, you actually have to go out and do it yourself. What chance have you got to learn anything REAL is something is done for you and served on a platter?

Be prepared to roll your sleeves up and do some of the hard yarns. Get your hands dirty. There is merit in understanding the full process ofdoing  something for yourself. It also makes it simpler to leverage in the future.

5. I’m not good enough

This is a really tough one. There will always be that little voice in you that tells you “What makes you the expert?”.  Well to be perfectly honest, you are already making moves to learn something new. Already you are a mile ahead of the pack. Take a look around at those closest to you. What are they actively doing to change there circumstances?   

Remember to source your information carefully. Your uncle Tom is not probably the best person to get financial and real estate advice.

6. Everyone will laugh at me

Interestingly this is something I was talking about just the other day to an acquaintence. If you were to walk into a room, who do you think the other people are thinking about? I can tell you now, they are NOT thinking about you. It’s only you who is worried about you. You may be given the opportunity by someone to be a fleeting thought in there head. Everyone else in that room is only thinking about themselves and how they are being perceived by others. When I remember that, my whole perspective and energy shifts. Try it. At least you have put yourself out there — it’ll be more than the average person.

And finally the BIGGEST reason not to do something…

7. Fear

In fact it’s the underlying reason for all of the above. It’s a tough one to admit to yourself, however there are many many ways to confront and over come it. Normally the best thing to do is TAKE ACTION. No matter how small, as long as you take action every day towards the place you want to be, you will be 7 steps further towards it by the end of the week. Add it all up and by the end of the month, 30 steps closer. You get my drift.

I really do hope that something in this list strikes you because I have been in exactly your shoes, asking myself all those questions and more. And yet I keep getting back up and ploughing on as I know there is a great life to live out there and it’s not doing the things I was doing 2 years ago in the office job.

I have spent a lot of my time and my money finding ways in which I could get out the rut I was in. I started down one avenue, almost lost everything and had to make an about turn, completely changing plans, directions and focus. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, however the person I have become in the meantime is determined and tenacious.

I want you to really understand what you are capable of when you set your mind to it.

“Embrace Your True Potential” — Nelson Mandela.

I wish you all the best in your endeavours whatever they may be. It an awesome journey, sometime rocky, sometimes smooth sailing. I cannot stress to you how worth it it all becomes.

To your continued success,

Antonia

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Open Your Mind


No doubt many of you have seen the film starring Kevin Spacey, Hayley Joel Osment and Helen Hunt ‘Pay It Forward’. What I hadn’t realised until fairly recently is that it is based on a true story – a true movement.

Just a while ago I typed into Google search Pay It Forward and The Movements website came up – avoiding all the You Tube clips of the film of course – and I took a closer look through.

There are plenty of individual stories that are listed and although I didn’t take the time to read everyone, there was one story featured that I decided to read. I don’t know why but I was compelled to continue through to his story.

Kenneth’s Story

It certainly didn’t sound as if Kenneth was anything other than a ‘regular’ guy, leading a fairly normal life working in a restaurant. He was however someone with a conscience something I know you all have. At work a biscuit was given with the bill at the end of the meal as a way to say thank you (often you get mints). Whether the customers took the biscuit was neither here nor there, but instead of just throwing it away he would give the biscuits to a guy he walked past that lived on the streets.

After about a month of doing this he actually stopped and talked to the guy and learned so much about him and how he came to where he was o the streets. Eventually understanding, Kenneth did something incredible, something not many people would do. He decided to reach out and help. He picked him up after work one day, took him shopping to buy a suit and then took him to a temping agency so he could find a job. He called in a favour from a friend to do this and as a result, our street fella was offered a job however it was out of town and he would have to move. Kenneth said he would pay for a motel room, his travel on the bus to and from work and his food expenses until his first pay packet came through. And that’s exactly what he did! Our newly employed street guy asked how he could ever repay Kenneth. Instead of payment to me, I want you to pay the favour to someone else who could really do with your help.

Some year’s later back in the same area as the restaurant Kenneth worked at, the guys eventually had a chance meeting and all was revealed.

The job he got him soon was promoted and did so well he was able to buy himself a house. He soon came across and inner city youth, broken family and had no real parenting. He discovered the child loved baseball and soon he established a team with the other local kids. He provided all the equipment including their uniforms. He would take the boys to baseball games and eventually became their teams coach and ‘big brother’ in their neighbourhood. He also taught the boys about how small acts of kindness can change anyone’s life for the better.

All of this was made possible by one person taking a chance on another. Essentially though each of the recipients was heard, they were listened to.

Think about whom you pass every day, wonder what their story is and maybe open your heart to them. Pay it forwards is a magnanimous thing. Who could you reach out to?

If nothing else, just watch the film, even if you have already seen it, it will leave its mark on you.

Until next time,

Antonia

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